Letting Go of Old Perceptions


Before you click on the arrow of this video, do you see three vases or do you see two people talking?

Now click on the arrow.

In love it is all about how you see yourself and how you see the other person.

How You See Your Partner

Is your perception of your partner preventing you from fully loving?  And is your partner’s perception of you preventing him/her from fully loving you?

After being together for many years, we start to see only one part of our partner–and sometimes it is a part that really annoys us.  “You are always judging what I say” or  “You should know what I need without my having to tell you,” you may be thinking.  Maybe your partner sometimes does accept what you are saying without judging it.  Or maybe expecting your partner to read your mind is unreasonable.  Yet, we tend to see only the behavior that annoys us.

To free yourself from limited perceptions of your partner, try writing down some of the behaviors that your partner seems to frequently exhibit.  Then, next to each behavior, write a behavior that is the opposite of that behavior.  For example, if you wrote, “My partner is a slob” you could write, next to it, “Sometimes my partner cleans up his/her messes.”

When we try to see the totality of our partner instead of just the part that annoys us, we are opening up to loving our partner more fully.

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.