Flirting

Whether you want to meet someone new or want to ignite a spark in your current relationship, try flirting.

Flirting begins with a smile and a glance. If the other person is interested, he/she will return the glance and hold the gaze.
Next comes preening–touching your body parts you feel are particularly attractive, such as stroking your hair.
Then lean forward and adopt an open posture, with arms uncrossed, to indicate interest in the other person.
At this point the two of you are engaging in mutual eye contact and are beginning to mirror each other’s movements. For example, if you put your hand on the arm of a chair, you will see the other person do the same.
Then comes the casual touch–you might quickly touch your partner’s arm or leg. At that point, the signal is all systems go.
Of course, either of you can stop the flirtation at any of these stages. But a lot of flirting behavior is done unconsciously so it is difficult to monitor. And, it is not what the two of you are talking about that establishes the attraction–it is what the two of you are doing.
–Beverly B. Palmer, Ph.D. as reported in AOL Health (http://www.aolhealth.com/healthyliving/feature/_a/psychology-ofattraction/20081119125909990001)

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